How To Support A Loved One With Cancer!

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Has someone close to you been diagnosed with cancer? Dealing with the emotional, physical and spiritual aspects of the disease can be extremely difficult and your support and love is crucial to the ongoing wellbeing of your loved one.

Stephné Jacobs, Chairperson of Reach for Recovery, believes the Reach For Recovery volunteers, who have themselves all experienced the same journey, provide vital support to those affected by breast cancer. “Our focus is also on helping patients recover with an optimal quality of life. Everyone, regardless of their financial situation, deserves the same access to services, support and care,” says Jacobs.

Playing for Pink CEO, Edith Venter, says people who have not personally struggled with cancer, though well-meaning, may not be able to fully comprehend what their loved one is going through. “It is important to equip ourselves with the right knowledge and skills to be able to effectively support loved ones living with cancer.”

With this in mind, Playing for Pink has provided a few tips on how to support loved ones through this challenging, and often lonely, journey.

Actively and consciously listen
Listening is a skill that takes practice. Human beings tend to want to give advice in an attempt to make things easier or fix the situation. As someone in a support role, it’s better to listen as this helps your loved ones express their feelings and lets them know they have a safe space to voice their fears and concerns during this difficult time. Active listening means repeating aspects of what the other person has to say and asking questions for clarification. This shows that you have heard the other person and understand what he or she has said.

Process your emotions
Receiving the news that a loved one has been diagnosed with cancer doesn’t only affect the patient, but also his or her loved ones. We are faced with our own set of emotions and fears of losing someone we love. It is important to process our own feelings in order to fully support our loved ones.

Practical (and timely) support
Practical support is just as important as emotional support. It may help to focus on tangible, everyday things you can do to make things a little easier for your loved one. Some people struggle with accepting practical support because they don’t want to inconvenience anyone and want to remain as independent as possible.

Simple ways to offer practical support can be in the form of:
Offering lifts to doctors’ appointments
Helping with housework
Taking dogs for a walk
Cooking dinners

It is important, however, to respect your loved ones’ privacy and that it is perfectly okay if your offers of assistance are declined. Make sure the offer stands for whenever they feel they’d like to take you up on it.

In the face of the overwhelming stress, adding a bit of laughter can be highly therapeutic. Always be sensitive to your loved one’s emotions as there is a time and place for everything. Be humorous and fun when appropriate and when needed. A light conversation or a funny story can make a friend’s day.

Make plans
The treatment process can be a long and exhausting process, but making plans for the future gives your loved one something to look forward too. Remember to make the plans flexible in case they need to be cancelled or rescheduled if necessary.

Talk about topics other than cancer
Ask about interests, hobbies, family and other topics that are not related to cancer. People going through treatment sometimes need a break from talking about their disease.

Presented by Edith Venter Promotions, Playing for Pink Ladies Invitational Polo in association with Whirlpool is an annual that event coincides with Breast Cancer Awareness Month and is aimed at educating the public about breast cancer and raising money for Reach for Recovery and the Ditto Project. The event will be held at Inanda Club, Johannesburg on the 26th of October and promises to be a day of glamour and goodwill that will touch, and make a difference, in the lives of many.

Tickets are available from R1000 per ticket to the public suite and hospitality packages are available, which can be secured by contacting Edith Venter Promotions on 011 783 5887.

Visit www.playforpink.org.

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